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November 2009 
But what if you don't BELIEVE in miracles?
Posted on Jan 16th, 2008
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Meenakshi
Meenakshi
So here's a friend.
She's been told she has a tumor.
She asks for healing, and is also attuned to Reiki.
Many send healing, prayers, and she is herself a positive person.
She goes for surgery--in the pre-surgery checkups, they find she doesn't have a tumor.
This strengthens her belief that doctors are at worst cheats and at best incompetent.
Why not the belief that a miracle took place?
That the tumor was healed?
Prayers and inner intent worked?
There was Reiki?
When there is a little doubt, and there sure is, here, as to who is right or wrong, why not just go with joy, and suspend belief?
What good is having a belief that makes you a victim and others oppressors?
It is not important if it was a miracle or not; what is important, is how you feel when you felt you had a tumor, and when you feel you do not.
That's how I feel! BUT...I remind myself to be tolerant.
For I've learned a valuable lesson.
If I don't believe in miracles, they don't take place.
Once again, the little hand can blot out the sun.
She's been told she has a tumor.
She asks for healing, and is also attuned to Reiki.
Many send healing, prayers, and she is herself a positive person.
She goes for surgery--in the pre-surgery checkups, they find she doesn't have a tumor.
This strengthens her belief that doctors are at worst cheats and at best incompetent.
Why not the belief that a miracle took place?
That the tumor was healed?
Prayers and inner intent worked?
There was Reiki?
When there is a little doubt, and there sure is, here, as to who is right or wrong, why not just go with joy, and suspend belief?
What good is having a belief that makes you a victim and others oppressors?
It is not important if it was a miracle or not; what is important, is how you feel when you felt you had a tumor, and when you feel you do not.
That's how I feel! BUT...I remind myself to be tolerant.
For I've learned a valuable lesson.
If I don't believe in miracles, they don't take place.
Once again, the little hand can blot out the sun.
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“If I don't believe in miracles, they don't take place.”
The extent to which we see things as miraculous is the extent to which we are open to the infinite possibilities the Universe holds for us. One person driving to work sees a marvelous sunrise, while another curses its light, and fumbles for his sun-glasses. Are the birds singing outside my window when I'm meditating a miracle or merely an annoyance? Was the disappearing tumor a miracle, or medical incompetence? As you have stated very well, gratitude is an attitude - it's not the gift which counts, but how we perceive it.
Meenakshi what a great blog,
Otter what a great comment.
great blog my mom has three cancers I need to blog and get her some healing prayers and light sent her way
Earthdweller, healing prayers sent her way. Would she like being told that you have asked for healing? I think that is another reason why we have to be aware if someone “sends” healing our way. How else can we fully open to healing?
The way I look at it; it is not BECAUSE everyone prayed that the tumor disappeared, but that we realized that healing energy is working around and on and through us, because we asked for, and consciously intended healing. Healing flows wherever there is a need, just like air fills a vacuum. Our healing activities help us to get aware of this, in the dense world of matter.
This is almost amusing. Can you imagine the doctor's faces when they're looking at the ultra sound pictures from the time before with the tumor and are now looking into an empty and healthy body cavity! I'll bet they were believing in miracles that day!
The patient was waking up from a procedure that now seemed unnecessary although now they were suffering from the pain of the incision that they felt was made by incompetent doctors. That must have taken any joy away from what might have been perceived as a miracle. If they had only opened up the body and found the tumor the size of a pea instead of completely non existent that person might have believed in a miracle.
Just some thoughts as I put myself into the place of the doctors and the patient as something that can't be explained fully by science manifests itself to them. Sort of like asking someone if they believe in ghosts. You can't prove that there aren't ghosts. Nobody yet has proved that there are. Yet we have so many stories about encounters with them that it almost seems strange that the entire human population would have ghost stories but there are no ghosts!
Also, I'd be willing to bet that those doctors may have been incompetent. They probably forgot to communicate with her or show her any pictures of the ultrasound of her tumor. They didn't show me the pictures of mine. They just said that I had two. Well, I can't see or feel them so do I really have them or are they just making that up? The lack of communication between a doctor and the patient is extremely incompetent in my mind. Fortunately the tumors that I'm supposed to have are fibroid and almost never cancerous. So, we leave them alone. If I were healed of them I wouldn't know I had just received a miracle because I really haven't seen any evidence that I've got them in the first place!
I hope that this ramble doesn't make light of the hurt that was given by the lack of appreciation of what you and others have done. Even if they had removed a tumor the thoughtfulness of many people caring enough to think of working to heal someone is something to be appreciative of. In this respect, the patient is inconsiderate of others care for her and that is not easy to forgive.
Amber, actually I like the light touch that you have brought into this! It's so important not to get too set into one view; even to “believe” it was a miracle is to take a view that I don't want to take. Fluidity is important.
As you say, Amber, it's true that the docs may have been incompetent. I've seen that there are so many of these grey areas in medicine and healing, that are difficult to defend or prove. The same thing has now happened to my sister, who went for a cataract op, as docs here told her she needed it; and now they're finding that she doesn't. Now this is about India and U.S., and it all depends on who you believe [she believes the Indian docs, as they have so much experience with the numbers of patients they see daily].
As to healing, Amber, it wasn't just me; and I try to stay detached once it has been done; so there isn't a question of forgiving.
What occurs to me, though, is that every day I see people whose lives are changed for the better, who get what they asked for; and who are oblivious that they have got it when they do!
That is why it is important to be aware of our intentions, desires and prayers and of thanking the universe/God/ guides every day for the great things in our lives.
As they say - Go Gratitude!
I wish that I was better able to hang onto that feeling of not being in pain. The reason I say this is because we spend all our time in these bodies of ours and it is a Miracle that on most days it doesn't hurt, the many parts work together to let us speak, walk, breath, imagine, dream, create, and eat. Do we appreciate this fact. Not really. Who thinks about every breath? Not many and assuredly not I. But if for one second, the heart skips a beat, the lungs are unable to take in air, a muscle freezes up in a cramp, then we pay attention!
I am wondering why it is so hard for our human species to appreciate a gift of any kind for any length of time. We get a beautiful necklace and we love it but in a few weeks, the necklace is put into a jewelry box and maybe worn once a year. A friend walks into our lives then thru circumstance walks out never to be seen again.
You're correct in saying that there are things handed to us that we are oblivious to. I was handed a miracle 5 years ago. His name is David and we both try every day to appreciate each other and not forget that what we have is rare and a great gift. Notice how I use the word try. Because it takes extreme effort to remember how blessed one is. Why is it so easy to sit down and make a list of the things going wrong but it requires concentration to remember everything that we have going right? I find that interesting.
I've been complaining lately of a head cold that keeps coming back after I think that it's gone for good. Why do I make a comment about that but don't say a word about how thankful I am that I haven't caught the stomach flu like the rest of my co-workers?! Hmm.
Time to start re training my brain to notice the miracles in my life! Like Gaia and my friend Meenakshi who helps me remember something that is very important, noticing miracles.
Refreshing blog Meenakshi! With all the TV ads on meds (“ask your doctor”) and the money some businesses get for keeping the public misinformed just to make them WRONG and keep the news and chaos and fear out there…we know here at zaadz I mean gaia that miracles happen every day…awesome healings. A lot of healing comes from “mother's touch” - especially the one's I am taught to do; and the miracles of touch (meaning getting the person back in communication with their body and their own being) needs our assist. They do get the spiritual prayers, postulates and love we put into their universe as an assist. Unfortunately it's not what makes “news” but 80% of the real population knows that miracles can happen through reike, psychics, assists, prayers and it simply cool. I have been healing others through the arts and direct assists ever since I new that miracles can happen - and do all the time. We have such high admiration here in volumes with this connection that it doesn't surprise me we finally all get to meet on the web. I predict that within 2 years the world will catch up to our golden age of miracles.
Amber, I like the question you asked: “Why is it so easy to sit down and make a list of the things going wrong but it requires concentration to remember everything that we have going right? I find that interesting.”
I don't have THE answer to this; as it is like a kuan: the question itself is a journey.
But I do find myself remembering some things that have happened to me in the past few years.
I decided to stay in the attitude of gratitude; in the flow of things; always taking the higher road in a situation; seeing the “positive side”, attuned to healing and so on. It has helped me immeasurably, and some people around me who feel that it has helped them. I knew that I was suppressing feelings of disappointment, but felt that they were getting healed by the other work I was doing.
It is not so. There comes a time when we have to deal with what we have suppressed,if we want to continue to live. I came to a space where I was very joyful, flowing, grounded enough to do what had to be done; but there was no happiness in actually living on earth. I felt detached, ready to stay or go. A friend, not “into” meditation or higher vibrations said:”But you are depressed!”
That really startled me; and yet it seemed true. I realized that at some time in our life, we have to come back and do things I considered selfish: eat when hungry, look after one's own needs before others, and so on. I have found joy in living, being on earth; and surprisingly find I am not being selfish!
I see that there are ebbs and flows to life; and whatever comes our way, needs to be checked constantly against what we find is our central purpose in life. Enjoy the journey!
Reading through all the above comments makes me feel this is such a worthwhile blog - so much to learn from each contribution. I'd like to add something I was given about 20 years ago by a truly remarkable person who chose to refer to himself as 'a fortunate slave'.
He really had nothing in terms of possessions yet he gave so much all the time to those who came to talk with him. He was always happy - happy to see you, happy in spite of his ailing health, joking about his old age - and I remember him saying, 'Happiness is an option. We choose to be happy'. He certainly lived up to this though I can't say I've ever been much of a success at it over the years. But looking at Meenakshiji's smiling face makes me think that it is probably true of her and maybe part of her wonderful access to the light and understanding she passes on to others.
Kes: ”I predict that within 2 years the world will catch up to our golden age of miracles.” I am sure this is already happening. All those unexplained and under-the-medical-radar turn-arounds! You are blessed to be an aware part of this.
Beguiner: Thank you for the loving words of your rose-heart. I completely agree with that kingly “fortunate slave” re happiness. That's probably the only habit worth cultivating! Are you likely to write a blog about this wonderful person?
Interesting that we can be so geared to serve others that “eat when hungry” feels selfish to us! I'm so glad that you and many others are so amazingly thoughtful that even to feed yourselves seems like a selfish act. That means that in spite of how much evil is in the world there are so many more that are filled to over flowing with good that there cannot be too much time before that love envelopes the entire planet. Please enjoy a good meal my Meenakshi! You have earned the right to be 'selfish' and nobody would begrudge you one nutritious bite! You know what? You are a miracle! I don't want to go thru life without having recognized that and said it out loud!
Amber, you are way too kind; because when I read it again, it seems horribly ..foolish at best and martyr-like at worst.
I'm sure there's a verse on Tao about this…how's this one: ”On the decline of the great Tao, The doctrine of “humanity” and “justice” arose. ”
Still, in the spirit of being kind to all, let's be kind to my little foolishness too! What I have discovered to my great surprise is, that while qigonging with closed eyes, [pardon the verb!] I am more aware of what those around me are feeling, and therefore more caring of them; while exercising, and getting all those happy chemicals, I am more likely to push my kids to exercise, knowing that it is the path to happiness, and not a tough path to fitness; while eating mindfully, and enjoying more energy, I now find it easier to look after the family as well.
They always said that you can only love others when you love yourself. I had to see it for myself!
Thank you for such wonderful support, dear Amber. You truly are Smilemaker!
You start with a post and then, in the end, we all learn something! We all get to play and try on different roles! Kids get to do that all the time. Play dress up! Why can't we be the martyr one day, a saint the next? How would we ever get a good perspective on what it must be like to be in someone elses shoes unless we've attempted to try them on ourselves?!
I think I've played most of the roles out there and I'm sure that all of us have from time to time. I feel that there is nothing wrong with spreading yourself too thin sometimes. You probably helped so many people during that time that you don't even realize the impact you made. Yes, it was a sacrifice of your strength but who knows what good things may be happening now because of it! Now,
it's time to step back. Rejuvenate. Reflect. Maybe change course a bit. You're going to come out the other side more balanced! I know that this is the stage of my life to withdrawl into my shell a bit to find out more about myself. I've been so outward looking that the soul has suffered greatly. I doubt that I can stand to look in on myself for great lengths of time but a little here and there will be good for me!
Thank you so much for being you Meenakshi. You truly are a Connector!
This is an amazing series of exchanges! I've been truly enlightened by everyone's post. Reminded me of a friend, a young, beautiful and dynamic lady executive in charge for fund-raising at the charity I support, TEWA. She's a mom too with two lovely kids (9 and 7). Three months back she suddenly fainted while at work, was rushed to hospital and was diagnosed to have a cyst in her brain which her doctors said had to be removed by operation. But instead of going ahead her family decided to travel to Delhi to get a second opinion. And there, the doctors redid all the tests and found out that there was no cyst that required an operation but then did diagnose some other defect that they believed could be treated with some medication. She's back to work continuing with the medications and I'll be meeting her in two weeks in a TEWA fund-raiser. Was it merely a case of misdiagnosis or did the cyst disappear through distant healing? Who knows?
On an episode of House, one of the doctors diagnosed a man with a terminal tumor.
The man sells his possessions, makes plans to travel the world in his last days, and ofcourse quits his job. He attends his own living memorial service. He describes a spiritual awakening.
Then he comes back to the doctor and finds it wasn't terminal at all.
So he sues the doctor.
Indeed, it is all about attitude.
Isn't it a wonder how we allow our beliefs to cloud awareness in this way.
Today, I realized anew that the way we ask for a miracle, or pray for it; determines how we deal with the outcome.
IF we have faith in the 'wrongness of things', miracles will seem like doctor error [but which doc was wrong?]
If we have faith int he 'rightness of things'; miracles will seem beautifully mundane, expected, and yet joyful.
I wrote some of this in a post on Living metaphysics group.
In a synchronistic way today, I found Amanda's blog:
in which a little miracle happened, when she took her daughter for a blood test.
And once again, I am blessed.
Very cool… like serendipity - I am so happy Amanda and her little girl got through this. It was treacherous until you helped her and I love her confidence after your guidance and miracle. It made me aware of breathing and the importance of being aware of that perception.